The Purpose of Marriage
" No Man without a wife, neither a woman without a husband, not both of them without G'D "
🔹️ Bereishis Rabbah 8:9 🔹️
This also reflected in a Jewish Chasene Ceremony, this by law and tradition and to establishes a new family. When we are going to marry someone, we must know what we are trying to find in a future husband or wife, as we all know in a Shidduch what a Shadchan is looking for, more importantly as we don't always know the one we are going to marry, that we don't know what the physical and the emotional maturity is, let alone that one we marry is psychologically ready. Maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to consider the nature of family life and the relationship between husband and wife to take into the Kallah and Chossen lessons.
As the Torah doesn't provide us with not much guidance on the procedures of a marriage, how we do find a husband or wife and how to form a Chasene Ceremony , the explaination we can find in the Talmud.
🔹️In martiage women has to observe a number of ritual regulations within the domestic household, this inclueded preparations and serving food according to the Kashrut, the Rabbinic dietary laws.
🔹️Also observe of limiting on marital intimacy during the period of Niddah.
🔹️ To separate and burn a piece of dough in making Challah for Shabbos, the reminder the Temple sacrifice and to light the Shabbos Hadlagah.
Performing these rituals gives women a spiritial of sanctification in every day life.
The most beautiful part of the wedding is the Kiddushin, during which the woman is engaged to the husband to be, and when he is places the ring on her finger and says :
Harei at m'kudeshet li, b'taba'at zo, k'dat Moshe v' Yisrael.
Be sanctified to me with this ring in according to the law of Moshe and Israel.
A marriage is sacred and should bring us Love, Happiness and a Soulmate ❤
Family Life, the key to Happiness
When a home of a family with strong Jewish values, stable and healthy, the all of Jewish life whether in relationship to HaShem, our social life, and in education, it will be full of life, vibrant and filled with happiness.
When a home is emotionally weak, spirtually and morally, all else will soon mirror that weakness.
Our religious laws are a big part of family life and also in Jewish Religious codes, these codes cover every aspect of family life, from our appearances to our most intimate relationships
🔹️Respect for the integrity, and feelings of All members of the family as humanbeings.
🔹️To develope and maintain a peaceful and harmonious relationship with All members of the family ( Shalom Bayit ).
🔹️To maintain a spiritual purity and a healthy attitude in marital relationship between husband and wife.
🔹️There must be recognition and acceptance of different roles of each member of the family.
Happiness of family life begins with having respect, acceptance, understanding, patience, warmth and education.
The central role of a Jewish home is a sactuary, where values children to grow, to florish, a place to feel safe and secure. Yiddishkeit is meant to be joy, pleasant and when we bring our children up.with these values, it will show.
The greatest gift we could give our children is a happy home.
The Torah gives us advice how we can put this into reality.