"No man without a wife, neither a woman without a husband "
~ Bereshis Rabbah 8:9
After a succesful shidduch and beautiful chasunah, did we know what we were looking for in a husband or wife?
The Torah doesn't provide us with much guidance during a shidduch, and what we need to know, but lets see what guidancd the Talmud gives,
Married women has to observe a number of rituals and rules.
🔸️Observe the guidlines of tznius. Fulfilling domestic responsibilities in creating a warm and welcoming Jewish home, preparing meals accourding to kashrus, keeping a kosher kitchen, and caring for the children, often together with the husband in giving them a Jewish upbringing.
🔸️Dress code is much the same as before marriage, tznius, apart from the head covering with a sheitel or a tichel, ( Satmar Chassidic women often wear a shpitzel, a pillbox hat on top of their sheitel or a headband.)
🔸️Family purity during the woman is niddah, there must be a separation from the husband between twelve to fourteen days. The law is called, 'Tahara t' mishpocha' which is Hebrew for ' family purity '.Accourding to halacha, a woman becomes niddah when she is having her mentrual period, or after giving birth, when in both cases the womb is open. The Torah says, ' a niddah counts for seven days when a woman has her menstrual period, from the first day of her period, till the bleeding stopped and then add an extra seven days before visting the mikveh.
🔸️A birth of a baby boy a woman is seven days niddah from birth when she can visit de mikveh, and for a baby girl it is fourteen days, however, mostly the bleeding takes a little longer after giving birth and the woman has to wait until it has completely stopped before purification.
🔸️The niddad period last somwhere between twelve or fourteen days, during this time marital relations are strictly forbidden. After fourteen days a woman can go to the mikveh.
🔸️A couple will discover that this period of distance, makes the relationship only stronger and it gives extra dimension and spirituality to the relationship, which will only deepen the love the couple have for each other.
🔸️The mikveh is one of the most wonderful places to go to. For woman who never been to the mikveh it just like one of those spa centers in hotels advertisements. Everything you need is their, from shampoo, showergels, bathfoam to luxurious bathropes and towels. After being exament for loose hairs, the mikveh lady will be there to make sure every ince of the woman is under water. Immersing in the mikveh is a intimate beautiful ritual for spiritual renewal.
The water of the mikveh is a closeness with the source of life, purity and holy.
🔸️Niddah